Premarital

October 22, 2011

Studies indicate that couples who participate in premarital sessions have more successful marriages. Why? Premarital counseling gives them a realistic view of what to expect from marriage. If more couples participated in premarital activities the divorce rate would decrease. With more realistic expectations of marriage couples are better prepared for the challenges of marriage.

It is time that couples started preparing for marriage and not just the wedding. Preparing for marriage does not mean living together. Studies indicate that cohabitation before marriage decreases the chances of a successful marriage. Even if you are living with someone, you should keep in mind they people have expectations of marriage that they do not have for people they are living with.

When people are dating they have a tendency to be on their best behavior. Dating should not only be used to find someone to marry, but also as a process of finding out what you like and dislike. You should learn some things about yourself that you did not know while dating also.

Engaged and planning for the wedding? Wait a minute, in addition to planning for the wedding there are some questions to ask to prepare for the marriage as well. In preparing for marriage there are some things you should know. There are discussions you should have and questions to ask before marriage.

Many people think they know what they are looking for in a mate. Some just flow. As important as it is to know what you are looking for in a mate, it is also important to know what you do not want and have an idea of what you need. These are some thing that you should find out about a person while you are dating.  Find out how they grew up, how they were raised.  Sooner or later how they were raised will show up in your relationship.

Keeping in mind that people change and grow there are a few things that you should consider when choosing a mate. Do you and your potential mate want children? If one of you does not want children, do not assume you can change their mind or they will change their mind later; they may, but do not plan your future on them changing their mind.

Are they a spender or a saver? Which are you? If you or your mate to be do not have financial balance it could leave you broke and angry. Finances are important in a relationship, make sure you know the relationship your potential spouse has with money. Are they Christians or do they just go to church?

Do they like drama? If you like drama, you do not need to be in a relationship with someone who is seeking peace. Do they have a sense of humor? It would be helpful to have a sense of humor in marriage.

Are they flexible and adaptable or do they have to have their way. Do you look for the win-win solution? Do they fight fair? How do they resolve conflict. These are questions to ask before you get married. These are things you should know before marriage.

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Take the time to find out who you are engaged to before you get married. Take time for some premarital activities, do some marriage preparation. Instead of just planning the wedding, prepare for marriage also.
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